Lady Says She Worries She’s ‘Needy’ for Desirous to See Boyfriend Extra

A lady who lately reunited together with her ex says she solely sees him two nights per week — and he or she’s questioning if she’s “being needy” for wanting extra.

She detailed her expertise within the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” discussion board on the U.Ok.-based neighborhood web site Mumsnet.com, explaining that she and her ex lately “agreed to a contemporary begin” and “issues have been going nicely up to now.”

The issue, the girl stated, nevertheless, is that she usually solely sees her boyfriend — who she stated usually works till 10 p.m. — on Thursday and Friday evenings.

“He’ll usually spend among the day on Saturday right here, however not at all times,” she continued, including, “He then spends Saturday and Sunday along with his buddies. Some Sundays he’ll spend the sooner a part of the day with household after which see his buddies afterward.”

The girl admitted that she is “scuffling with solely two evenings per week and a few of Saturday” — however she stated she additionally is aware of that “seeing his buddies is vital to him.” She added that she now worries she’s “being needy” — particularly as a result of her associate is “speaking about marriage and transferring in collectively, and so on.”

Within the feedback part of the put up, many different customers suggested the girl to hearken to her needs and wishes after which truthfully consider if her present boyfriend is ready to meet them — and to not really feel like she needs “an excessive amount of” if the reply isn’t any.

“I like my very own house and might’t stand being completely wrapped up with anybody. But when it would not swimsuit you, and also you need extra, [then] you have to determine if he is value it,” one individual stated.

“He was an ex for a cause… Neither of you is improper, you simply aren’t very appropriate,” added one other.

Another person stated: “This is not a relationship. I might not transfer in with him or marry him. If that is him making an attempt to make it work after a contemporary begin I would hate to see how issues are when he is snug and a bit complacent.”

“Have you ever advised him how you are feeling? Should you can’t have an open and sincere dialog about this then I don’t suppose you have to be contemplating marriage and children simply but,” one other commenter questioned.