Man ‘Taken Aback’ After Pal Asks Him to Be Her Bridesmaid

• A male Reddit consumer is questioning whether or not he is within the fallacious after a feminine pal requested him to be a part of her bridal get together forward of her upcoming wedding ceremony
• He stated issues had gotten “messy” after a number of the bridesmaids discovered about his pal Stephanie’s resolution, including that they did not agree with it
• “The opposite bridesmaids are making it a factor, and I’m beginning to really feel like I could be inflicting drama the place there doesn’t have to be any,” the poster wrote

A person has agreed to be one among his pal’s bridesmaids at her wedding ceremony, however a number of the bridal get together is not comfortable about it.

In a latest put up on Reddit’s widespread “Am I the A—— (AITA)” thread, a 29-year-old consumer defined how his greatest pal, Stephanie, 30 — whom he is recognized since highschool — requested him to be a bridesmaid.

He defined that Stephanie is bisexual and the vast majority of their pal group is queer, telling Reddit customers that they’d by no means had a romantic relationship and Stephanie has recognized his spouse, 32, since they began courting.

“She was even at our wedding ceremony. Whereas she didn’t get up on the wedding ceremony because it was solely blood household in each wedding ceremony events, she did come to my bachelor get together,” the poster stated of the bride-to-be.

After Stephanie began planning her wedding ceremony, she requested the Reddit consumer to be part of her bridal squad, which he stated “is sensible” since he would not know Stephanie’s fiancé, 30, in addition to her.

“At first, I used to be somewhat stunned. I imply, I’m a dude, so I wasn’t certain what that may even appear to be. However Stephanie defined that she needed me within the bridal get together due to all now we have been by collectively and the way a lot of an affect I’ve made on her life,” he wrote. 

“It is sensible I suppose, as a result of she additionally isn’t about conventional gender roles, she simply needed individuals who beloved her and could be there for her on her big day. Truthfully, I believed it was sort of a cool concept,” the consumer continued, including that he “stated sure.”

“It felt like an awesome honor to be a part of such a particular second in Stephanie’s life. I figured I’d simply put on a swimsuit the identical shade because the bridesmaids clothes, assist with no matter was wanted and help her the best way I at all times had,” he shared.

Nevertheless, he admitted issues acquired “messy” as soon as a number of the bridesmaids discovered about Stephanie’s resolution. 

The consumer stated he will get together with all of the bridesmaids, however solely actually is aware of one, including, “Let’s simply say they’re lower than thrilled about me being a bridesmaid. A few them texted me privately suggesting I shouldn’t come to the bachelorette get together and a few saying I ought to drop out of the bridal get together.” 

“They stated it’s going to make the entire thing uncomfortable particularly since one of many stops is at a lesbian bar. One among them even joked that I ought to ‘simply persist with the bachelor get together.’ I imply I do know the man a good quantity however not that nicely,” he wrote, insisting he understands it is not the “norm,” however would not see why it “ought to be a giant deal.”

The Reddit consumer added, “Stephanie clearly needed me there, and I’m doing it as a result of I care about her, to not make anybody uncomfortable or to make an announcement. However the different bridesmaids are making it a factor, and I’m beginning to really feel like I could be inflicting drama the place there doesn’t have to be any.” 

He insisted that Stephanie’s fiancé and his spouse “don’t have any points with this in any respect,” including that they frequently have double dates.

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Within the feedback part, most individuals sided with the poster. “It’s her huge day, not theirs! If the opposite ‘bridesmaids’ don’t prefer it maybe they need to drop out of the bridal get together. What the bride needs is what ought to be regarding them; not what they suppose is correct,” one insisted.

One other wrote, “Seeing as these girls are usually not the bride they don’t have any enterprise pondering their opinions matter right here.”

A unique commenter advised, “Let the bride learn about these conversations from her supposed buddies if you have not already. I am certain she will not be comfortable along with her different buddies making an attempt to dictate her events.”

“The BRIDE requested you. She needs you as a bridesmaid. Until the groom has an objection, no one else’s opinion is related,” one insisted.